Quotes from the book "The let them theory"
I really loved this book, I may go and find more books by author Mel Robbins. Here are some quotes that made me stop and read again.
If your friends are not inviting you out to brunch this weekend, let them. If the person you have really attracted to is not interested in a commitment, let them. If your kids do not want to get up and go to that thing with you this week, let them. So much time and energy is wasted on forcing other people to match your expectations.
The truth is, if somebody else you're dating, a business partner, a family member, is not showing up how you need them to show up, do not try to force them to change. Let them be themselves because they are revealing who they are to you. Just let them, and then you get to choose what you do next.
All human beings have a hardwired need for control.
Feeling in control makes you feel comfortable and safe, so naturally you try to control everyone and everything around you, often times without even realizing it.
The only person you are in control of is you: your thoughts, your actions, your feelings.
The more you try to control something you can't, the more anxious and stressed out you become.
Choosing peace is not weakness; it is power. Letting go doesn't mean giving away control; it means reclaiming it.
Let Me is all about self-awareness, compassion, empowerment, and personal responsibility.
The more you let other people live their lives, the better your life gets.
Stress is a much bigger problem in your life than you realize.
Here is how you do it. The moment anything happens that stresses you out, say "Let Them." Put yourself on pause, then say "Let Me" and take a breath.
If you want to achieve your goals, be more present, feel more confident, and be happier, you must stop allowing other people to stress you out. Your peace is worth protecting.
You get to choose what impacts you and to what extent. You get to choose what you participate in and what you don't.
Your power is in controlling your response to the other person's behavior, to the annoying situation, and to the emotions that you feel.
Just because someone has a negative opinion doesn't mean they feel negatively about you as a whole.
Let them think what they want. Let me do what I want.
I once heard a therapist say at a conference, "If it weren't for families, I wouldn't have a business."
Hoping someone will change is what keeps you trapped in a relationship with someone who is emotionally immature or worse, emotionally abusive.
It is not your responsibility to manage their emotions or try to fix them. Your responsibility is to protect yourself from their emotional spiral and to see it for what it is.
Let them go silent. Let them erupt. Let them play the victim. Let them sulk. Let them deny that it happened. Let them make it all about them.
Research shows that most emotions will rise up and then fall away within 90 seconds if you don't react to them.
Winning the game of life requires you to focus on the cards you have and choose what to do with them.
The root cause of many disorders is an obsessive need for control.
The fact is, 95% of the things that you want in life are things that you can create if you are willing to work hard, be consistent, disciplined, and patient.
Success is about putting in reps. The truth is, you don't have to be special. You just have to be what most people aren't: consistent, determined, and willing to work for it.
There are three factors that I believe make great friendship possible:
1. Proximity
2. Timing
3. Energy
According to a University of Kansas study, to become a casual friend, you have to spend 74 hours with someone, and to become a close friend, you have to spend over 200 hours with someone.
According to a study, scientists found that from the age of 21 to 60, you will spend more time with your co-workers than with your family and friends combined.
Friendships are not a tit-for-tat. Do not keep score.
Adult friendship isn't something that happens. It's something you create.
People believe that warning labels, threats, and known risks do not apply to them.
Pressure doesn't create change; it creates resistance to it.
It needs to be their idea to change, not yours.
The ABC loop:
A. Apologize, then ask open-ended questions.B. Back off and observe their behavior.C. Celebrate progress while you continue to model the change.
Human beings are hard-wired to move toward what feels easier and pleasurable in the moment and to avoid what is painful and hard.
Struggling is a critical part of the human experience, and it is one of the most necessary elements of someone choosing to get better.
Avoidance is a coping mechanism when someone is struggling.
If someone likes you, you will know, and if they don't, you will be confused.
You will find the right relationship by saying no to the wrong ones.
One of the fundamental principles of the Let Them Theory is that people's behavior tells you exactly where you stand in their lives. You need to understand. This is very black and white. You are either a priority or you are not. There is no middle ground.
The number one mistake that people make when they are trying to take something to the next level is focusing on the other person rather than focusing on the value of their time and what they want in life.
The fact is, 69% of the problems in your relationship are NOT resolvable.
The grass is greener where you water it.
Happy Reading !!!
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