Quotes from the book "Radical Candor" by Tim Scott.
- The word "Boss" evokes injustice, "manager" sounds bureaucratic, "leader" sounds self-aggrandizing
- In general, I've found that the group comprises roughly (very roughly) 15 percent of a team.
- The brain is like Velcro for negative experiences and Teflon for positive ones.
- Ask your question to a friendly colleague then count to six. Do not allow yourself to say anything no matter how awkward you feel or they look.
- Five key dynamics for successful teams included: Psychological Safety, Dependability, Structure & Clarity, Meaning, and Impact
- In some ways, becoming a boss is like getting arrested. Everything you say or do can and will be used against you.
- Signs you will get from 1:1s that you are failing as a boss
- You will hear Good news only
- No criticism.
- No agenda
- Cancellation of 1:1 meetings
- Updates that can be emailed.
- Am I showing my team that I care personally?‚and ‚ Am I challenging each person directly?‚ If the answer to both questions is yes, you are doing just fine.
- Context matters, but the context of gender politics and gender bias is becoming untouchable‚ to everyone's detriment.
- Leadership at Apple: Listen, Challenge, Commit
- Radical Candor gets measured at the listener's ear, not at the speaker's mouth
- Stop saying, "You're wrong" and instead learn to say, I think that's wrong.‚ "I think" was humbler, and saying that instead of "you" didn't personalize.
- Adults confuse subjective tastes with objective reality, it's arrogant. "He is an idiot. That's why he's wrong". Not to confuse objective reality with our subjective experience. Broccoli is yucky. That's why I don't like it.
- Make it not just safe but natural to criticize you
- What could I do or stop doing that would make it easier to work with me?
- Bosses are like diapers: Full of shit and all over your ass
- Aristotle's elements of rhetoric‚ pathos, logos, and ethos, which I'll translate loosely as emotion, logic, and credibility.
- Push decisions into the facts, or pull the facts into the decisions, but keep ego out.
- It is only by selection, by elimination, and by emphasis that we get at the real meaning of things.
- People evolve, and so your relationships must evolve with them. Care personally; don't put people in boxes and leave them there.
- In my experience, people who are more concerned with getting to the right answer than with being right make the best bosses. That is because they keep learning and improving.
- Start by asking for criticism, not by giving it. Don't dish it out before you show you can take it.
- people would rather work for a competent asshole‚ than a nice incompetent.
- There are two dimensions to good guidance: care personally and challenge directly.
- Former Secretary of State Colin Powell once remarked that being responsible sometimes means pissing people off. You have to accept that sometimes people on your team will be mad at you
- In every relationship, there is a screwer and a screwee.
- people begin to love not just their work but whom they work with, and where they work.
- In Silicon Valley, you don't fall down; you fall up.
- It's brutally hard to tell people when they are screwing up. You don't want to hurt anyone's feelings
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